La Isla Bonita

La Isla Bonita

La Isla Bonita


Download Madonna HD wallpaper. Released on February 25, 1987, La Isla Bonita (the beautiful island in English) is a song by the famous American singer and song writer Madonna. It is her fifth and final single from her third studio album, True Blue. The song’s instrumental version was originally made for Michael Jackson not Madonna. However, Madonna subsequently accepted this song and personally wrote the lyrics and melody. It shoud be stated that this song is Madonna’s first Spanish-style song and mixed with Cuban drums, Spanish guitar, maracas, harmonicas and some real drumming. The song’s lyrics tells about a Latin style beautiful paradise.

La Isla Bonita lyrics

La Isla Bonita lyrics
Songwriters: Madonna; Leonard, Patrick; Leonard, Susan; Gaitsch, Bruce R;

Como puede ser verdad

Last night I dreamt of San Pedro
Just like I’d never gone, I knew the song
A young girl with eyes like the desert
It all seems like yesterday, not far away

Tropical the island breeze
All of nature, wild and free
This is where I long to be
La isla bonita
And when the samba played
The sun would set so high
Ring trough my ears and sting my eyes
Your Spanish lullaby

I fell in love with San Pedro
Warm wind carried on the sea, he called to me
Te diso te amo
I prayed that the days would last, they went so fast

Tropical the island breeze
All of nature, wild and free
This is where I long to be
La isla bonita
And when the samba played
The sun would set so high
Ring trough my ears and sting my eyes
Your Spanish lullaby

I want to be where the sun warms the sky
When it’s time for siesta you can watch them go by
Beautiful faces, no cares in this world
Where girl loves a boy and a boy loves a girl

Last night I dreamt of San Pedro
It all seems like yesterday, not far away

Tropical the island breeze
All of nature, wild and free
This is where I long to be
La isla bonita
And when the samba played
The sun would set so high
Ring trough my ears and sting my eyes
Your Spanish lullaby

Tropical the island breeze
All of nature, wild and free
This is where I long to be
La isla bonita
And when the samba played
The sun would set so high
Ring trough my ears and sting my eyes
Your Spanish lullaby

Tropical the island breeze
All of nature, wild and free
This is where I long to be
La isla bonita
And when the samba played
The sun would set so high
Ring trough my ears and sting my eyes
Your Spanish lullaby

these lyrics are last corrected by Ramin Ahmadi

Contaminated water?

Contaminated water?

Stop! Is that glass of crystal clear water you are about to drink clean? Where did you draw the water from? The tap, the cooler, from a bottle? If you took it from the tap, then it is possible that the water you are about to drink may not be as clean as you thought. Water treatment is vital to ensure that the water you are drinking is really, really clean. It may look clean to the naked eye, but chances are it is not really clean unless it has been properly treated.

Wherever water goes it becomes contaminated by the things it passes over and through. Surely you have seen water flowing down the street, collecting all the dirt, dust and debris. It is brown and filled with nastiness. You surely would not drink that water, now would you? No. Water treatment is essential to your health and well-being. Water should be properly purified in your home. The water company and authorities may treat the water, but this is done with chemicals such as chlorine.While not harmful in small doses, it can be very dangerous to the human body over time.

Chlorine can also react with organic material that may somehow enter into the water system and create a poisonous substance known as trihalomethanes. This happens to be a cancer causing agent and, if ingested over the course of many years, may contribute to the development of cancer in your body. That glass of water in your hand may actually be killing you! Before you drink any more water from the tap, you should be advised to look into home water purification solutions. Water should always be equated to life, vitality and health!

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Elisabeth Röhm’s Blog: Locked Down in Boston with Easton

Elisabeth Röhm Boston Bombing
Boston Common – Courtesy Elisabeth Röhm

Elisabeth Röhm, best known for her roles as Serena on Law & Order and Kate on Angel, has been blogging for for over two years now.

The actress, 40, currently stars as Taylor on The Client List, and recently wrapped filming on American Hustle, David O. Russell’s latest movie.

Her book, Baby Steps: Having the Child I Always Wanted (Just Not As I Expected), was released in April.

She can be found on Facebook, Google + and on Twitter @ElisabethRohm.

In her latest blog, Röhm — mom to 5-year-old Easton August with fiancé Ron Anthony — recounts her experience in Boston during the bombings, and its effect on her and her daughter.

The day the horrible bombings took place, my daughter was flying to Boston — where I have been shooting David O. Russell‘s latest movie for the last month — to join me. I’d been there for weeks alone, getting established and aching for Easton’s sweet butterscotch kisses and energetic hugs.

I’d been anticipating her arrival by getting tickets for the Big Apple Circus, planning out days filled with museum visits and aquarium adventures and stocking the hotel we’d be hunkering down in with goodies, games and fun projects to entertain and pass the hours.

I was psyched! She was psyched! We’d been missing each other and even though she was thriving in her routine at home with school, play-dates and some serious Daddy-bonding, we are two girls who are attached at the hip. The time had come to reunite and it was going to be divine.

I’d spent endless hours on Skype with Easton, telling her all about beautiful Boston and how fun it was going to be for her when she got here. There wasn’t a moment of our days that had not been organized with activities that would allow us to explore and celebrate being in a new environment together.

Globetrotting is one of the many perks of being an actor. Although it creates some obstacles in the “normalcy” (whatever that is) of home, we see it as a blessing in my family. Easton has been all over the world since she was an infant, and it’s pretty apparent that she embraces the adventure of new places, things and people.

She melts my heart when she says, “Let’s go on an adventure, Mama” — words I know I’ve taught her. Openness to uncertainty and a curiosity for the unknown is a part of her nature. Perhaps it’s something I’ve encouraged, but now we share it together, this quest and thirst for newness, renewal and a comfort in discovery.

Elisabeth Röhm Boston Bombing
So excited for the show – Courtesy Elisabeth Röhm

The Boston Marathon was happening on April 15, the day that Easton arrived. The energy was palpable. The celebration was strung through the air like holiday lights, twinkling with anticipation. The weekend hustle and bustle of my hotel had been thrilling as people brimmed with eagerness to get their run on.

They’d traveled from all over the world to participate and their families had come to cheer them on. The hotel was stocked with kids of all ages and I was grateful to know that Easton would be able to make pals with kids from all corners of the earth when she got to Boston. Little people like little people! Perhaps she’d make a new friend that she’d never forget in the pool.

I have to say, not being a marathon runner myself — as of yet, anyway — they are a happy lot! Freedom-seekers who delight in these runs and their colorful gear seems to underscore their vibrant love of life, the body and community. Many of them travel from city to city to participate and the marathon is their social scene. The hotel was full of spontaneous celebration! It was a party all weekend and I was pleased that Easton would be arriving on a day filled with so much joy.

I planned to attend the marathon since I was there in the hub of it all. Just minutes away from the finish line, it seemed like the thing to do! I was busy running around finishing up my mommy errands, turning our simple hotel life into our temporary home for a few weeks. I was grocery shopping and getting pink (everything of Easton’s is PINK, PINK, PINK) flowers, arranging all the wonderful games that would light her fire. As I wound down my to-do list, I had about an hour to spare before I was to head to the airport and get my darling daughter. Woo-hoo.

As I unloaded my packages, I was tossing around a big dilemma … I thought, “Finish line or nap, nap or finish line?” It was a toss-up as I had been swept up by the infectious joy I’d witnessed all weekend. People bopping around in their florescent sneakers, uproariously laughing, back-slaps of encouragement — well-wishers from all over had gotten me in the mood. I wanted to be there whistling and cheering! But I was a little tired. It was a long week of shooting, plus my five-year-old was arriving and that would certainly keep me on my toes! Right?!

I lay in the bed, closed my eyes and rested. Somehow that hour passed real quick! Soon it was time to drive to the airport. I knew nothing as I joyously walked through the hotel to the front door. The moment I stepped outside and smiled at the valet, four girls piled out of their taxi openly sobbing.

Elisabeth Röhm Boston Bombing
Swan boats – Courtesy Elisabeth Röhm

I thought one of them might have gotten hurt so I naïvely asked, “Are you okay? Did you get hurt running?” They just looked at me, eyes filled with terror, and said, “There were bombings at the finish line.” They moved into the hotel shocked, broken and in fear. Like little girls, they huddled together trying to comfort each other.

I looked around to see if anyone else seemed to know about these bombings. One by one, people kept being dropped off from cars in tears. My car suddenly pulled up in front of me. It was time to go get Easton. I thought, “Oh my God — there has been a terrorist attack and my daughter is about to land in less than an hour.” I jumped in, turned on the news and hauled ass to the airport.

The calls poured in from all my family and friends warning me to stay in my hotel and not to leave. I simply said, “I’m driving to the airport to get Easton. Once we are back in the hotel safely, I’ll call you.” What was going on?!

The airport was in serious chaos when I arrived. Runners walking shell-shocked through the hotel on phone calls with loved ones, security and police gearing up for what would be a heinous week here in Boston. Everyone was talking to strangers and sharing in the fear, grief and confusion of the moment. It reminded me of 9/11.

Then the doors opened and Easton came bounding into my arms. We must have hugged for 30 minutes, squealing with delight and showering each other with kisses. It had been a long couple of weeks away from each other. I held onto her for dear life, not knowing what I had brought her into by having her come to Boston.

Our adventurous plans were squashed as I gathered her suitcases and raced all of us to the car in hopes that the quicker we made it back to the hotel, the safer we’d be. I didn’t know if roads would be closed or what the reaction to the bombings would be. I didn’t know anything. Nobody did at the time. It was a city under attack, with chaos and pain. I had to get us into our hotel room and get a handle on what was going on around us just blocks away from our hotel.

Elisabeth Röhm Boston Bombing
Boston Common Frog Pond – Courtesy Elisabeth Röhm

I tried to speak in vague terms with Tammy, my dear friend and Easton’s nanny, about what had happened at the marathon. It was awkward, as I didn’t want Easton’s happiness to be with me in Boston to be ruined or affected by the horrific events of the day. I also didn’t want her to be afraid.

Once we got to our room, I didn’t run to the TV and turn on the news, even though I was concerned and wanted to know every detail that was available, just like the whole world. Instead, I read the news on my iPhone as a way to protect Easton.

People kept calling and I’d have to say things like, “Yes, we’re okay. Yes, Easton and Tammy are here. We’re not leaving the hotel. It’s okay. We’re okay.” But the truth was, we weren’t okay because there were people in Boston that night that were suffering. People were injured and people had died. Everyone was living in fear with broken hearts over the tragedy.

Worse, the officials had absolutely no idea where the criminal who had orchestrated these cruel acts of violence was. There I was with my five-year-old, thinking, “What do I say to her? Do I explain this to her?” I was just thankful that it was late afternoon when they got in. That way, it didn’t seem odd that we went to our room and stayed there for the rest of the day.

I chose to say nothing.

As the days went on, it was hard to continue pretending that all was okay. You couldn’t find a corner where the incident wasn’t being talked about. People were gawking at the TVs and there were police everywhere. On Tuesday, we went to a museum that happened to be right next door, but that was about it for our day’s activities.

Elisabeth Röhm Boston Bombing
Unsettling scene – Courtesy Elisabeth Röhm

Soon after, the city went into actual lockdown. What do you say to your child who wants to go out and play in the sunshine? How do you tell them that leaving the hotel is not an option AT ALL? I told Easton a little bit more — “We can’t leave the hotel today, sweetie. The police want us to stay inside to be safe.” She never asked any questions. I guess I was lucky.

Obviously everything, including production on the film, was shut down. We went to the pool where she made those friends I’d thought of before she’d arrived. We spent the day inside as the manhunt escalated.

It was surreal to watch the children laughing and splashing in the pool while the adults would make eye contact, not uttering a word but shaking their heads in dismay, hurt and confused about what was happening all around us.

Lockdown in our hotel. That was what it was like. I had escaped having to explain anything really — bombings, terrorists, death, anti-American acts of violence. We didn’t have to talk about it because she is 5. Her world is Mommy. When Mommy is fine and normal, then Easton is fine and normal.

And so I was. I acted as if all was okay when it certainly was not. She didn’t need to know about such things. It shouldn’t be a part of a five-year-old’s world.

The next day, there was no safer place to be than in Boston. The world was watching. They’d captured the perp. We finally bounced to the park to relish our new freedom (something we’d taken for granted) and the carousel of Boston Common. I tried to be in a joyous mood like her as we absorbed the day.

Elisabeth Röhm Boston Bombing
Commons Carousel – Courtesy Elisabeth Röhm

There they were: police, military, special ops, FBI and of course, the Red Cross. Trucks spread all throughout the park. It was hard not to have to explain a little bit more as Easton innocently asked, “Mommy, why do they have guns?” “To keep us safe,” I replied, matter-of-factly.

As we walked hand-in-hand under the sunshine with the season springing all around us, it was impossible not to think of those families. Their lives had been torn apart by the bombings, and they were doing anything but strolling through the park on a pretty day.

My heart was and still is with them.

– Elisabeth Röhm

More from Elisabeth’s blog series:

Noah Baumbach: “Frances Ha” is my reinvention

I met Noah Baumbach in 1996; Luna had recently released our “Penthouse” LP and Noah hired us to write music for his comedy “Mr. Jealousy.” We have remained friends and have worked together a number of times since; in 2005 Britta Phillips and I wrote the score for “The Squid and the Whale,” and this year have small roles (I play a Wall Street trader) in his latest film, the very funny “Frances Ha.” Starring and co-written by Greta Gerwig, and beautifully shot in Brooklyn, Manhattan, Paris and Poughkeepsie, “Frances Ha” is an immensely enjoyable film.

Last week we sat down at Noah’s dining room table and recorded this conversation over a glass of red wine. Britta was hovering and interjected a couple of questions.

I watched “The Squid and the Whale” with my son Jack the other day and he loved it.

Well, this is the first time I have cachet with a friend’s kid. Wes Anderson’s films, 6-year-olds are crazy about them.

I remember Jack had come by the studio when you were mixing, but he wasn’t allowed to watch it yet. You told him he would like it one day, and you were right. Anyway I laughed again at the scene where Bernard (Jeff Daniels) talks about falling out with his literary agent because he made some disparaging comments about the Knicks. And he asks Walt if his girlfriend likes the Knicks, like it’s an important test. Does Greta like the Knicks?

Now she does.

I was late to the Knicks. My dad was a big fan. But I first started watching baseball, I became a Red Sox fan. My dad was a Mets fan. I wanted to have my own team and league. It was a way to share baseball but not feel like … he had so much anxiety about watching the games, particularly the Knicks. Maybe because it’s easy to blame the refs.

Well, basketball games can chew up your insides.

I got really into the Knicks after graduating college. I wasn’t connected much to the Bernard King era.

That’s when I started watching, the Knicks-Celtics series in 1984, when Bernard carried the team as far as he could.

I got into them during the Riley era. I used to watch “Knicks Rewind,” where you could watch the whole game in the span of an hour. Now I don’t like watching a game after it’s over.

* * *

At the “Frances Ha” screening at LACMA, you mentioned in the Q&A session how hard it is to make a film in black-and-white.

I meant business-wise, because most of these companies cover their costs with TV deals. And most TV deals won’t take black-and-white. A lot of black-and-white films generally have a color version that will be used for TV.

Is that what you are going to do?


Have new technologies made it cheaper and easier to make films?

Certainly it’s easier to do it now. It’s perhaps not dissimilar to what happened in the music business. I’m guessing when you started, you had to rent studio time, and it was expensive, but now you can make a record at home.

Also, you can do endless takes.

Britta Phillips: But you spend a lot more time editing.

The work gets pushed onto someone else.

My editor, and I subsequently, when she is organizing the material, has to go through a number of takes of a scene.

From the recent scenes I saw you shoot, it seemed like you were doing at least 10 takes.

But we were also trying to get some very long takes. Someone asked me this week, did you really do 53 takes of one scene? But it was probably three pages of dialogue. If you shot it conventionally, you’d do a master shot, maybe eight to 10 takes, and then go in for the coverage and do the same again, and ultimately you really are doing just as many takes of the total scene. But we are doing the entire scene in a more economical — and what I think is a more interesting way to shoot it. It’s interesting to figure out; how much story can you tell with this one shot? Where does it take you to? Sometimes it can take you through the whole thing.

Laura Dern was telling me that for “Inland Empire” (not in the movie) they started with a 70-minute monologue, one long take, though they had to stop after about 40 minutes to change the caro.

* * *

You mention how being friends with Wes Anderson, and seeing “Rushmore,” made you realize that he does things his own way, he’s not trying to please anyone. I felt the same about “Kicking and Screaming,” that film doesn’t tie up in any neat way; it’s not trying to please anyone.

Yes, that is true of “Kicking and Screaming.” But when I saw “Rushmore,” or even “Bottle Rocket,” I thought he really had figured out his visual language at the same time as he figured out the language of the script. Not that he hasn’t changed, or improved since. I was probably talking more about “Mr. Jealousy” — which is where we met (Luna provided the score). I haven’t seen it for a while, it’s probably pretty good, but in retrospect maybe I didn’t take it one direction or the other. I could have pushed the whole notion of jealousy more, and perhaps the characters should have been younger.

There are some truly funny things in that film.

Carlos [Jacott] is great in it.

Yes, that’s how we met, we met for dinner at Great Jones Cafe.

We had the Andouille sausage.

Britta: How were you introduced?

It was the music supervisor who suggested Luna. And I had heard your records, but they sent me the EP with the “Kids” cover.

That was a collection of B-sides.

But I liked your cover of “Thank You for Sending Me an Angel.” It’s nice being friends over a period of time with people whose music you like so much, or other filmmakers, seeing people change, go through trials. We have been friends since 1996.

Since then I have had something to do with every film you have directed, either a cameo or …

Well, obviously you and Britta were very involved with “The Squid and the Whale.” And very involved with “Margot at the Wedding,” if only in helping me figure out that there would be no score; it was a useful process.

Britta: “Highball.”

You wrote “Everybody Felix.”

In “Greenberg,” “Strange” by Galaxie 500 …

Which plays twice. I had seen you and Britta play the song at the Hiro Ballroom. There was something very exciting about it; it sounded like you had three guitars going at once … the whole guitar melody is so strong, it’s that happy/sad thing. . .

* * *

Rob Sheffield came up with a list recently, of his favorite placements of songs in film. I thought about a few of my own favorites. One is “All Along the Watchtower” in “Withnail & I” (and, by the way, that film contains what the New Yorker profile mentions as a Baumbach theme — how do people escape their 20s?). But the use of “Street Hassle” in “The Squid and the Whale”; you and I were at a film screening together last year and Lou Reed happened to be sitting in front of us, and he said that was perhaps his favorite use of one of his songs ever. It’s a great moment in the film, the lyrics have nothing to do with the film but it works so well.

Yes, that was a great compliment. You had given me that song on a mixtape. The decision; well, we knew the cello part seemed great for his running, we thought maybe should we segue into something else. But the revelation was letting it run through the scene, how emotional it was because his singing has so much feeling in it.

Britta: I didn’t love that song till I heard it in the film … a great song in a film, when it works.

It happens a lot, you see a film and hear a song that maybe you own elsewhere, but you hear it in a different way now, and it sounds amazing.

When I saw “Margot at the Wedding” for the first time, I remember feeling, right from the opening scene, that I was now watching a great director, that you had gotten better and better. And I have the same feeling watching “Frances Ha.” But still when I watched “Squid” the other night — where technically I’m sure you weren’t as knowledgeable as you are now — but that film packs an emotional punch. And I think about my own early albums, well, sometimes even though you have no idea what you’re doing, the early material is very strong emotionally.

Yeah, there are some things you can’t repeat. I felt it when I revisited “Kicking and Screaming” for the Criterion DVD. Simultaneously thinking, I would do so much of this differently now, but also thinking I could never re-create this, it has something working for it … Of course, I listen to early Galaxie 500 records, but I don’t think “It’s a young man’s music.”

There are a few moments that make me cringe, but I still get a real charge out of those records.

“Squid and the Whale,” there was so much buildup to making it.

For casting reasons?

Casting and financing. Until finally we said, well, let’s just make it with what we have; it had a tiny budget. And we made it in 23 days. The opposite of “Frances.”

The great thing about “Frances,” it seems you cast whoever you want, and the cast is perfect.

Yes, the last few films I have cast whoever I want. We go through an audition process for pretty much everyone. But you and Britta didn’t have to audition!

I don’t know if you feel this way about your career, if “L’Avventura” was a reinvention, or if Luna was a reinvention. That’s how I feel. I’ve had a couple of those, where I made myself do something different.

Yes, recording “L’Avventura” with Britta was fun, was joyous, was a release.

I thought of it a little bit, with “Frances,” and that I knew you as you were making that record. It sounded like you were having fun. At that time it was my favorite thing you had done.

Britta: It was exciting, no moping.

I felt about “Romantica” (the record before “L’Avventura”), when I heard that, that something was happening, but I didn’t know what it was. There are beautiful songs on it, that feel urgent and painful. “L’Avventura” is probably a better record, but songs on”Romantica,” I didn’t know what was going on in your life, but there was something.

They say that A&R people look for someone who is going through a crisis in life, because that will lead to a more interesting album. “Frances Ha” feels joyous from the moment it begins. The music helps that too. It’s also biting at times, and wistful at others … I like how the film doesn’t resolve. It ends with a beginning.

“Portnoy’s Complaint” ends, after a book-long rant, with a new paragraph, “now vee may begin.” And you realize he was talking to a therapist. I’ve always loved that idea — and now we start.

“400 Blows” ends that way. On the beach.

And you sense, now something new will happen.

Back to “Margot at the Wedding”: In the New Yorker piece it is commented on, how people are more tolerant of characters in a TV show than they are in film. They will tolerate bad behavior in Tony Soprano or Don Draper, and still you love them.

Well, also they will tolerate behavior that is expected in a gangster. Or even on “Mad Men,” because it’s a period piece, so that feels safer. There’s distance.

But people seemed to have a hard time with the conflicted mother that Nicole Kidman portrayed in that film. Is part of it perhaps that they will accept complex, or selfish behavior from a man but not from a woman?

Yes, mothers are a complicated subject. Apparently a difficult subject.

I think this guy is stalking me

Dear Cary,

I live in a medium-size metropolitan area and sometimes use dating sites and Craigslist to meet men for casual dating/hookups. Several years ago I was duped by a man who misrepresented himself by using 20-year-old photos. Which I discovered by meeting him in public.

Fast-forward a year or so and I again went to meet someone I had met online and lo and behold, he was in the establishment, which he quickly exited. Of course, no one matched the photo of the person I thought I was meeting. He followed me to my destination and then continued to send me messages, which I ignored. There was another incident as well, where he was in the same establishment as I was and again, he sent me messages. Fast-forward again until present day … every site I go on, he contacts me, always using fake photos and different email addresses. I know this because I use Google image search and the photos always end up matching a scam artist or various profiles that contain a certain phrase or names the predator has used in the past. I experience a lot of anxiety now, while attempting to meet men online, always wondering if it is the wolf in disguise, yet again.

I have come to the conclusion that it is not specifically ME he is seeking, but preying on many other women who live in my city. Apologies for the long letter, but I would like to figure out a way to warn other women so they do not fall for his deception. Alternately, I fantasize about some type of revenge … I’ve been able to ascertain his real name and address. The question is, what do I do with it? Send him an anonymous letter, letting him know that someone is on to him and tell him to back off and quit preying on women? Do I post a warning on Craigslist warning women about him? I am not about to do anything illegal, I just want him to stop preying on women! Please advise!!


Dear Stalked,

First, refrain from Internet dating for a period of three months. That will clear some space for you to concentrate on this issue. During that time, contact the other women this man has harassed. Develop a profile. Then clarify your options by presenting the specifics of the case to an expert in stalking behavior.

Do not just live in fear. I urge you to take action. Protect yourself. Take it seriously.

Learn as much as you can.  

I wish I could give you specific directions but those must come from someone who has been given the details and is an expert. You must find that expert on your own.

Meanwhile, stay off the Internet dating sites. Change your behavior. Stay in touch with the other women he has harassed. If he continues to contact you, but not them, that may be a sign that he has singled you out and will be relevant to your case. Present this information to your expert for further advice.

It is likely that because of your unpleasant experiences, Internet dating is no longer the fun, casual activity it once was anyway. So refrain from it. Take inventory of the contacts you have already made through Internet dating and cultivate them. See if you can nurture some good, solid friendships among the people you have already gotten to know. If you find that you cannot stay off the Internet dating sites, then consult a counselor or therapist about techniques you might use to alter your behavior.

Also, read what you can about human behavior to get a general idea of what’s driving people when they post self-descriptions. My very cursory investigation (that’s what I call it when I look on Wikipedia!) seems to show that lies are a big part of Internet dating behavior, and this in turn is linked to the general practice of impression management in our daily affairs. So it will be important to determine where on the scale of dishonesty this man’s deceit lies, and whether he has a background of violence or drug use or other indicators. In other words, all this information gathering is about determining the level of threat he represents. I can’t assess that because I am neither an expert nor in possession of the facts. You have to do that. If you find you cannot do that, then get help to understand what is stopping you from taking action.

The main thing is: Take action about this man and communicate with others. One hopes that he will turn out to be a misguided but essentially harmless nuisance. One also hopes that after a period of time you will be able to again use Internet dating as a way to interact with people. When you are ready to return to Internet dating, don’t use your old methods. Research such sites rigorously. Look for the ones that are most trusted, that do background checks, that screen people out. Live your life with more circumspection. The world is a dangerous place, full of weirdos!